Before heading into surgery, I had no idea what 75 hours post-surgery would look like. And I take this opportunity to share a bit with any who are interested.
First and foremost, I am so grateful for all of the love, support, and prayers people have expressed via email, Facebook, on the phone, through Prayer Shawl ministry, and in every other way. Thanks for your kindness and your humor and your encouragement. If you have sent cards, I will get those but I have not yet made it out to my mailbox with a bag to carry things back.
Sue Snively has been an unbelievable help through all of this, taking me into the hospital and making sure I was settled, bringing me back home, carting me here and there, making sure I have food and essentials. We committed when we divorced to still be “a family only different,” and that continues to be our reality.
So 75 hours out, I am preparing to head off to Lucy’s Annual Chamber Choir Concert. This is, admittedly, a bit of a stretch, but I love to watch her sing. Otherwise, my “routine” has included doing periodic exercises through each day to re-strengthen my leg muscles, doing some laps around the neighborhood with my walker and adding a little more each day, and maintaining basic things around the house. Today, I had the excitement of going for a blood draw. Otherwise, I spend a fair amount of each day resting and icing my hip. My pain levels throughout have been minimal, thankfully, and Tylenol helps when needed. I felt so human when I was able to shower on Wednesday morning.
Along the way, I have realized that whoever invented compression socks probably had a really good idea but was not at all interested in user convenience – or actual usability. However, we have discovered that Meg is a natural at getting them on.
As a general theme, I have discovered that, while I thought I was a pretty efficient person, simple things in life require more thought for now. It is draining to get upstairs and realize I forgot something downstairs, for example. But even that provides more opportunity for movement, which is a good thing I guess.
I have not really dropped out of email, thanks to smart phone capability, but I am glad to be able to sit at my computer to do things with a keyboard and bigger screen. There are some tasks I want to get to over the next couple of days, and by Monday, I should be fully back in the loop at church.
Looking ahead, I have a follow-up appointment with the surgeon next Thursday and George and Bernadette are going to take me to that.
With some transportation assistance from Jerry Fuss, I will be in church for Jeri Eaton’s Memorial Service on November 5. Then I hope to drive up and back for the Homeless Town Hall Forums and Consistory on November 15. I will be fully back in action on November 20 for services and Sunday School in the morning and Transgender Day of Remembrance in the evening.
I am hopeful about the potential that lies ahead, freedom from pain I had learned to ignore as best I could, the real possibility of walking Disney and the White Mountains with my girls, adding back things I have let go over the years, and so much more. I will get there, literally step by step.
Thank you for making this possible and walking with me through it all. I am truly thankful for all that you are to me, and all that we do in the world because we are together.